The Stillhouse
Welcome to The Stillhouse — a quiet place to explore truth, self-mastery, and radical freedom through writing and reflection.
This space has been a long time coming. I had to work through a lot of “supposed to” to create it.
The Stillhouse is not about algorithms or virality. It’s not about sales funnels, lead magnets, or pressure to buy. It’s a place for real conversations and lived truth. I’m not here to be a guru or a guide — just someone sharing what’s been true for me.
Here, I don’t prescribe anything. I don’t tell you what you should believe, how you should heal, or what path you should follow. I simply share what I’ve lived, what I’ve learned, and what I continue to wrestle with. If it resonates, great. If it doesn’t, that’s okay too.
The work you’ll find here is rooted in sovereignty, inner responsibility, and honesty. You’ll find articles, reflections, verses, and fragments — all freely offered. There are some paid things too, but they’ll always be invitations, never demands.
This is my version of a treehouse — a space that’s real, quiet, and relaxed. There are a few share buttons here and there, but this isn’t built around social media. There is just a simple email sign-up if you want to stay connected. Nothing more.
So settle in with your tea, coffee, or whatever you like. Look around. Take what resonates and leave the rest.
I’m glad you’re here.
Love to all,
Della
Featured Articles
The Dark Night of the Soul
The Dark Night of the Soul isn’t depression. Don’t turn it into that.It’s not a mental health crisis—it’s a full system reboot.It’s the part of healing where everything false burns off.Not because you’re broken, but because you’re waking up. It’s the disorientation that happens when the stories stop working.When you no longer believe the roles you were given:Who you’re supposed
Feelings as Habits
Through my journey with self-mastery, I discovered that feelings can become habits. I was terrified just to exist in my own life. I feared external circumstances, losing control, failure, and how others saw me. Fear became my natural reaction to everything that happened. That meant my feelings weren’t guides—they were habitual warning signals, firing off whether there was real danger
The Path to Self-Mastery
Self-mastery is where my journey began over 11 years ago. I started by working on my thinking—learning to pay attention to my thoughts and beginning to question them. From there, I started to understand that my feelings were primarily coming from my thoughts. If I learned to manage my thoughts, my feelings were more or less under control. This wasn’t
The Stillhouse Community
What is The Stillhouse Way?
The Stillhouse Way isn’t something you sign up for.
It’s something you recognize.
You arrive with a feeling—
something’s shifting, something’s stirring.
You’re not looking for more noise.
You’re not looking for one more plan to fix yourself.
You’re looking for space.
You’re looking for truth that doesn’t come with strings attached.
You’re looking for someone who doesn’t flinch when things get real.
You might not even know what you’re seeking— until you read the words, feel the energy, and something in you exhales.
The Stillhouse Way feels like:
Finally, a conversation that isn’t trying to sell you something.
A reflection that doesn’t demand change—but invites it.
A place where truth is soft and fierce at the same time.
Permission to feel what you’re feeling without being fixed.
A quiet reminder: You’re not broken. You’re just in process.
It’s not a path I’m here to lead you down.
It’s a space I’ve opened— so that you can find your own footing.
Your own truth.
Your own stillness.
The Stillhouse way doesn’t promise transformation.
But it makes space for it.
And that’s what you’ve been longing for all along.